In Thailand it is very common for guys from the Western world to hook up with a Thai bar girl or a Thai shemale while there on holidays. The man pays the bar girl or shemale, commonly called Kathoey in Thai, either an amount of money per day while he is on holidays or he pays her a lump sum at the end of his trip, usually just before he makes his way to the airport. This is common practice for farang (foreign) men while on holidays in Thailand, well at least with the single men anyway, although I know of many farang men who cheat like crazy on their girlfriends and wives while they are back at the hotel or out shopping. Buy hey, I guess that’s life, especially while in Thailand. 

What I wanted to talk about in this article is how some men get so attached to their shemale, ladyboy sex toy they just can’t seem to let go when they head back to where ever it is they came from. When a man comes to Thailand, especially a man who has never before gotten an unlimited amount of sex, where and whenever he wants it, it’s hard for him to let go. He falls so hard for his sex crazed, high testosterone shemale lover that he may, dare I say it, fall in love. I think the correct term for this phenomenon is called “fall in lust” because I can tell you for sure there is little or no chance his shemale companion, who may well have told him everything he wanted to hear, has or will ever fall in love with him. However, if he has fallen into her web she may confirm to him that “she” doesn’t want to be with anyone else and she wants to wait for him to come back soon. If he falls for the oldest trick in the book, his shemale friend may even trick him into paying her a sponsorship payment and that way she won’t have to go out and work, by selling her body to other men.

Does what I have just said sound absolutely absurd to you or would you consider paying a sponsorship to a shemale hooker that you really cared for, and someone you were totally convinced cared about you to. Let me tell you, literally thousands of men everyday of the year from around the world are sending money to their Thai bar girl girlfriends and shemale girlfriends. It is as common as someone working overseas for a few months and sending money to their wife back home. The problem here however is that almost none of those bar girls or shemale hookers ever stop working. Sure they take the sponsorship money and continually email their “lover” back every time he makes a payment to say “thanks honey, I miss you, comeback soon”.

I personally know a number of both Thai bar girls and shemale hookers who have numerous sponsors but still sell their bodies every single night of the week and as many times a night as they can. It’s in their nature, they are not going to stop it no matter how much money you send. At the end of the day it comes down to the man’s basis insecurity. Some men come to Thailand every year, sometimes multiple times per year since it is so cheap and screw themselves stupid with a new girl or ladyboy everytime they come but can easily walk away with no attachment at the end of their holiday. Some men get caught up in the whole scene and actually believe the lies these hookers tell them and fall in love but it’s a horrible one sided love affair that almost always ends in disaster.

A few months ago I read an article in Big Chilli magazine. Big Chilli is a magazine all about farangs living in Thailand. The article in this particular copy of Big Chilli was about a farang private investigator who was paid by mostly farang men to check up on their “lover”. The investigator said so many men paid sponsorship money to their Thai bar girl girlfriends so they would not have to work as prostitutes anymore but on almost every occasion the private investigator would find out they were as busy working in bars or on the street as they always have. He couldn’t believe so many guys fell for these lies and in the end he couldn’t take it anymore and quit being a private eye in Thailand.

If you come to Thailand and go with a Thai bar girl or a sex crazed shemale that’s all well and good. You will probably have the time of your life and will want to return but if the issue of love and sponsorship comes up you need to walk away. It’s just that simple, why throw away good money on someone who could care less about you and only wants your money. If you come and fall in love, and that’s entirely possible, either plan to stay in Thailand with your bar girl or shemale lover or organize the necessary visas and take them back to your country with you. The visas will normally take some time if you can get them at all but don’t send any money in the mean time or only a small amount before they actually get to your country and when you can be officially together you can see how your relationship works. Long distance relationships are hard enough but be very, very wary of having a sponsored relationship with a prostitute. Doing this you may be asking for heartbreak and maybe a lot of unnecessary trouble.